Thursday, August 25, 2016

Guide to the Androsphere

The Southern Poverty Law Center chronicled it in a cursory manner four years ago:
The so-called “manosphere” is peopled with hundreds of websites, blogs and forums dedicated to savaging feminists in particular and women, very typically American women, in general.

The so-called “manosphere” is peopled with hundreds of websites, blogs and forums dedicated to savaging feminists in particular and women, very typically American women, in general. Although some of the sites make an attempt at civility and try to back their arguments with facts, they are almost all thick with misogynistic attacks that can be astounding for the guttural hatred they express. What follows are brief descriptions of a dozen of these sites.
At the time, the only two that mattered were In Mala Fide and Roosh. Obviously, it has expanded greatly since then.

Wednesday, August 24, 2016

Straining at a gnat

And missing the camel. A psychologist fails to grasp the concept of "economic incentive":
Some new data about divorce and non-marital breakups contains an unexpected finding, and I think it underscores the fact that we're in the midst of an ongoing evolution in what people want and seek in their romantic relationships. The study, based on a survey of over 2000 heterosexual couples, found that women initiated nearly 70% of all divorces. Yet there was no significant difference between the percentage of breakups initiated by women and men in non-marriage relationships.

How to explain? I find that these data are consistent with what I and others have seen clinically. When men and women seek couples therapy and then subsequently divorce; or, when either partner seeks individual therapy about a marriage conflict that ends in divorce, it’s often the woman who expresses more overt conflict and dissatisfaction about the state of the marriage. On the other hand, the man is more likely to report feeling troubled by his wife’s dissatisfaction, but pretty much “OK” with the way things are; he's content to just lope along as time passes.
The difference is that in a marital breakup, a woman gets cash and prizes. In a non-marital breakup, a woman gets nothing.

This indicates that since there are 2.3 marital breakups initiated by women for every marital breakup initiated by a man, the divorce rate could be reduced by 39.4 percent by removing the economic incentive from women.

Tuesday, August 23, 2016

Alpha Mail: the Gamma mindset in fiction

A reader recognizes a fictional portrayal of Gamma:
Although I certainly don't share all your views I will always acknowledge and appreciate that I owe a lot to your development of the gamma concept. As a recovering gamma the fact that I recognized myself in your description of the typical gamma mindset and behaviour gave me a powerful incentive to work my way out of gamma territory and self-absorption and to choose the path of self-honesty and realistic feedback. In this respect I also owe a lot to the articles of Nick Krauser, who took up your gamma concept and developed some further interesting views on it.

So I was fascinated when I read a short story by T. C. Boyle yesterday and found what I now recognize as a masterful description of the thought-process of a gamma mind. The gamma we're dealing with here is a man overwhelmed by his envy on another man going for the same woman and beating him in the process, leading to obsessive and delusional white-knight-fantasies. Maybe you check it out sometime. It's called "Termination Dust" and contained in the short story collection "After the Plague".
I love to receive this sort of feedback. It's great to see men, whether they agree with me or not, choosing the painful, but ultimately rewarding path of self-honesty and reality over their Gamma delusion bubbles.

I shall have to look it up, as it sounds potentially illuminating.

Monday, August 22, 2016

It's not her fault, blame evolution

Now scientists are excusing female infidelity with science:
What drives women to cheat is a subject that has been long debated over the years. And now scientists are suggesting women have been programmed by evolution to pursue affairs in case they decide to leave their partners.

New research claims this 'mate switching hypothesis' particularly applies to childless women whose loved one can affect their ability to raise offspring. The theory that affairs are women's natural back-up plan challenges the accepted notion that humans are intended to be monogamous. It suggests humans have evolved to constantly be on the lookout for better long-term partners that their current ones.

David Buss, Cari Goetz and their team told the Sunday Times: 'Lifelong monogamy does not characterise the primary mating pattern of humans. 'Breaking up with one partner and re-mating with another - mate switching - may more accurately characterise the common, perhaps the primary, mating strategy of humans. For our ancestors, disease, poor diet and poor medical care meant few lived past 30 - meaning experimenting to find the most suitable partner may have been key to survival.

Scientists claim people would pick partners with the highest chance of survival, but have someone in reserve in case that person died.
That's certainly a novel excuse. "This isn't what it looks like! I'm only trying to prepare for your inevitable death!"

Of course, the reduced attractivness that is concomitant with the aging process tends to get in the way of this partner-replacement theory.

Sunday, August 21, 2016

Identity defines

The heartbreak of a woman who identifies as the wife of a man to whom she is not married:
I am a cisgender heterosexual female, but I am also something more. I am the voice of the thousands whom civil rights progress has passed by and who still conceal their true identity from an exclusive society.

This is the identity closet no one wants to acknowledge, which is what makes it so devastating for those who find themselves inside. I did not even realize how hard I had been working to hide my true self until I met Mr. X, but suddenly it was as though all those awkward moments of my past came into focus and I could see the meaning of my whole life. I am—I always have been—the wife of Mr. X.

Coming out was one of the hardest decisions of my life, and at times the hatred and heartache I’ve faced have been worse than I could have imagined. Hardest of all is the rejection from Mr. X himself, who has declared publicly he has no interest in me whatsoever. But I know that no matter what anyone says, I have to be true to myself. And I know without a shadow of a doubt that my true identity is wife of Mr. X.
The real question for society is a difficult one. If this poor non-cismarried woman decides she wants a divorce, how much money should Mr. X be required to pay her?

Friday, August 19, 2016

Game: the gateway drug

Roosh considers how an intentional pursuit of hedonistic pleasure inadvertently led to neomasculinity and a quest for truth:
How did game serve as the gateway drug? Simple: I kept asking why, as if I was an annoying 8-year-old child.
  • Why are woman attracted to me when I dance and act like an entertaining clown?
  • Why did my father not have to act like a clown to attract my mom?
  • Why has society changed to encourage women to pursue exciting “bad boys” and clowns over good men?
  • Why are institutions like the media and universities pushing women into behaviors which harm them and the family unit?
  • Why is there a concealed group of elites who seem to control politicians and the most important institutions?
  • Why are those institutions attacking me for speaking the truth?
There wasn’t only one step from having fun into the nightclub to fighting back against social justice warriors and the media, but several steps that had to take place over the past 15 years. My path weaved through sex and gender relations, but there are other paths as well, which I describe in The 5 Paths To Realizing Truth. For example, minimalism is another point of entry:

When you live below your means, you begin to see that most people are unnecessarily living above theirs. That leads to the conclusion that they were trained to live a life of excess by corporations with the complicit help of a government that wants to keep society in a neverending state of indebtedness and distraction so they ignore everyday injustices while losing any will or desire to fight the establishment. The easiest stepping stone out of The Truman Show is to realize that consumer lifestyles are not the path to happiness, and those those who chase material possessions are misguided.
The answer is straightforward: Game involves cutting through the lies society tells its boys and young men. And once a man develops a taste for the truth, he also develops a sense for when people are lying to him. Following that path leads a man to philosophy, and eventually, if he continues to walk upon it, to the Way, the Truth, and the Life.

More than a few people have asked me what I saw in Roosh, and wondered why I was so willing to stand by him and defend him. The reason is because I recognized in him something that I knew of myself: he was genuinely seeking after truth and knowledge. Game is the gateway drug to truth.

And more often than not, it is the hedonist who seeks it most sincerely, as the examples of men from Aurelius Augustinus to Siddhārtha Gautama suffice to demonstrate. I am not saying Roosh is going to be a saint or a buddha, but I will say that he is much more likely to end up as one than the average man.

Commenter John Freeman has witnessed the transformation from the start:
It's been a very interesting ride, watching the entire manosphere drift toward alt right politics. Back in the day, blogs like Roissy and Roosh were nothing but game. People got all butthurt and complainy when he would throw out the odd political article. Now it's mostly alt right politics with a little bit of game. But to anyone who has been reading this whole time, the transition makes perfect sense.

The thing is, you start tugging at one little lie, and all the rest of the lies start unraveling. If they would lie to us about sexual relations, about families, about misogyny, about the pay gap...what else would they be willing to lie about?

Turns out, the answer is EVERYTHING.

Would you rather have a few more years of being a sexual libertine, or would you rather save your civilization? That's the stark choice before us now.
It's all related. It's all various aspects of one grand deception. So, it's not a mere coincidence that "breaking the chains, winning the games, and saving Western Civilization" has been the tagline of this blog from the beginning.

Thursday, August 18, 2016

Men overestimate themselves too

When they don't go out and experience rejection:
Perhaps you are new to the game, or maybe you’ve been out of it for a long while, due to a long-term relationship or marriage. Either way, even if you’re the world’s most insecure guy, the chances are you will overestimate your SMV (sexual market value) – by five points.

Yes, that’s right. Most guys new to game think they are a whole five points higher than the women they approach rate them.... It is only by going out into the real world, approaching real-life women, hitting on them (and making it obvious that you’re doing so) that you will get feedback that is worth anything.

And the chances are, unless you’re a natural, that feedback is going to say ‘sorry, you’re not good enough.’
Rejection stings everyone. It hurts, initially. But like working out, you soon adapt to the pain and the results soon make that initial pain worthwhile.

No pain, no gain is as true of Game as it is of the gym. Go out. Fail. Fail faster. Because, as Aerosmith pointed out several decades ago, you've got to lose to know how to win.

If you think about it, the reason men overestimate their SMV is the same reason women overestimate it: lack of rejection.